Q: The summer before first grade, a child told my son things such as, “I’m going to kill you.” My son told us months after this took place, so we could not inform the camp he was attending. We dealt with that situation by reinforcing how loved he is and by letting him know what he can do in the future (tell a grown-up). I also talked to the other child’s parents and ensured that they weren’t grouped together for school or camp.
Now he’s 8 and in third grade, and kids are saying things such as, “I’ll murder you,” during team sports. When I approach the coach and other parents, they respond that this is “friendly competitive banter.” My son was visibly upset by this talk.
What tools can I give him to support him with this? My initial reaction is to tell him to be super sarcastic in response, such as, “Sure, see how that works out for you.” But I am not sure whether that is the correct response.