One of the constant mantras in my Neufeld Institute studies is, “connection only for the sake of connection.”
There is no condition. Your love and affection is offered freely and never withdrawn.
This is awesome when I read it. It is useful when I am rested and feeling stress-free. And the house is clean. And the food is made. And the laundry is folded.
You see how hard it is? Unconditional love and true compassion is the work of my life!
AND, the truth is, I’ve gotten much, much better at it.
How? Practice.
Every day. Every moment. And when I have no compassion, I practice “Do no harm.”
I try to get away from the people to save them from me. And THIS is hard, too!
So, since this is such a fallen world and we are such a fallen people, go ahead and commit to the practice of unconditional love.
There is no finish line or outcome.
There is no acceptance letter or accolades.
No one will celebrate you or even notice.
But not hurting others (our kids) is so amazingly brave and tough…you will leave a legacy for generations to come.